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Why 'We Need to Talk' Never Works

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Those four words, "We need to talk," trigger more fight-or-flight responses in men than almost any other sentence in the English language. I've seen men's faces go gray hearing it. Their heart rate jumps. Their prefrontal cortex starts shutting down before the conversation even begins. This isn't b...

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