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Free Relationship Quiz (Gottman Four Horsemen)

A brief assessment to identify which Gottman patterns are driving your disconnection and what might help.

2 min6 questionsBased on Gottman Four Horsemen informedFree & private

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Understanding Your Communication Pattern

A brief assessment to identify which Gottman patterns are driving your disconnection and what might help.

Your severity level — mild, moderate, or significant
What’s driving YOUR relationship communication breakdown specifically
A personalized next step from Dr. Wellls

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This is not a clinical assessment. For medical concerns, consult a healthcare provider.

About This Assessment

Informed by Gottman's 42-year longitudinal research (91% divorce prediction accuracy), Beasley & Ager 2019 EFT meta-analysis (Hedge's g = 2.09), and the SWAN study on perimenopausal cognition

This relationship quiz uses 6 evidence-based questions informed by the Gottman Four Horsemen informed to evaluate the severity and impact of relationship communication breakdown on your daily life. Your score is calculated from multiple dimensions including symptom frequency, intensity, and functional impact.

This is a screening tool, not a diagnosis. It draws on validated relationship research but does not replace clinical assessment. If your results concern you, consult a licensed couples therapist, ideally one trained in EFT or Gottman Method.

Understanding Your Score

Your Communication Pattern: Early Warning Signs(Score 1-3)

You are catching this at the right time. The patterns you described are recognizable in Gottman's framework, and recognizing them is genuinely the hardest part. Here is what 42 years of data from the

Your Communication Pattern: Established but Reversible(Score 4-6)

The patterns you described have had time to settle in. That does not mean they are permanent. It means they need a more structured approach than willpower alone. Gottman's research shows that 69% of

Your Communication Pattern: This Needs Real Support(Score 7-10)

What you are describing is serious, and I want to be honest about that. The level of distress and the patterns you identified suggest that communication has broken down to a point where talking about

Frequently Asked Questions

What does this relationship quiz measure?

This relationship quiz uses 6 evidence-based questions informed by the Gottman Four Horsemen informed to assess the severity and impact of relationship communication breakdown on your daily life. It evaluates multiple dimensions including symptom frequency, intensity, and how they affect your wellbeing.

How accurate is this relationship quiz?

This screening tool is informed by the Gottman Four Horsemen informed, a clinically validated instrument (Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (2nd ed.). Beasley & Ager (2019). EFCT meta-analysis: Hedge's g = 2.09. Berent-Spillson et al. Distinct cognitive effects of estrogen and progesterone in menopausal women.). While it provides a reliable indication of severity, it is not a diagnostic tool. For clinical diagnosis, consult a qualified healthcare provider.

Is this a medical diagnosis?

No. This is a screening tool, not a diagnosis. It provides an indication of relationship communication breakdown severity that you can discuss with your healthcare provider. For clinical diagnosis, consult a qualified medical professional. You can bring your results to your next doctor visit as a conversation starter.

How long does this relationship quiz take?

This assessment takes approximately 2 minutes to complete. It contains 6 evidence-based questions. Your results are immediate, private, and include personalized recommendations.

What should I do with my results?

Your results include a severity score and personalized recommendations. We suggest: (1) reviewing your score and what it means, (2) reading our in-depth article about relationship communication breakdown at wellls.com/problems/gottman-four-horsemen, (3) discussing your results with a healthcare provider, and (4) exploring our evidence-based lifestyle medicine recommendations for managing relationship communication breakdown.

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