Session 1 — Returning to the Body

# Session 1 — Returning to the Body

Hello, dear friends! We are starting a practical course on how to talk about feelings and enjoy sex. I created this course with all my heart. body, brain, so that your sexual life goes to a new level. I know how hard it is to talk about your feelings, especially when we talk about the intimate side of our life. In this course, we will understand why it is difficult for us to do this, we will understand how to do it, and, of course, there will be a lot of practice and concrete examples of how you can discuss this delicate topic with your partner. And I will definitely tell you that after this course you will not remain the same.

The structure of this course was created so that you can understand what you like in sex, what you enjoy, what you need to be comfortable, cool, and that your sexual life will bring you joy again and again. Why do we need joy and pleasure from sex? Well, if you don't like your sex and you go into it like a prison, it automatically starts the process of dying of libido. If we don't like something, the body doesn't want to do it, and as a result, our sexual life disappears. Therefore, as part of this course, we will learn how to communicate with a partner in this way, how to talk to him in this way, how to choose words that reflect what is going on inside us, in order to adjust our sexual life to the wave of pleasure. The course is not for nothing created very practical. This is necessary so that you do not just carry a bunch of knowledge in you, but so that you can apply this knowledge in your life.

There will be little theory here, just a little bit. I even think that you will not need any notebooks and pens, only for exercises. But if you really want, you can make notes and then, most importantly, discuss these notes. Discuss with your partner, discuss with your friends, discuss with a psychologist if you are currently doing psychotherapy. It will help you improve your speaking skills. There is little theory and a lot of practice. Why do I want to make the course practical?

In general, if I could, I would gather all of you here, we would sit down and talk about it in person. But since there is no such opportunity, and I want to reach out to each of you, then after each lesson you will receive a practical, pleasant, deep exercise that will help you talk about intimate topics. Why is practice important to us? You know, there is a huge amount of theoretical information on the Internet and everyone has knowledge. Sometimes clients

come to me and describe their diagnoses, their symptoms, their whole life in great terminology. And at this moment I ask them, what do you feel in your body? And what do you call this term? How exactly do you, with your feelings, with your bodily sensations, with your experience, with your communication with people, live what you call this term? At this moment, a person usually hangs up, But this is very good, because a person begins to integrate this concept into himself, he begins to relate what really happens to me, why I decided to choose this term. So I know for sure that you have probably already read or heard something that I will say. But we will build a conversation in such a way that you can apply it in your life.

Why is practice important? Because sex, sexuality, our intimate life is a very physical process, it is a very emotional process. It is based on our emotions, sensations, reactions, sensations and reactions of the body. Therefore, we will focus more on practice. Practice is aimed at connecting thoughts, feelings and actions. Then you need to connect the body and the soul. And when you connect both of these concepts, when you live them whole, your sex becomes completely different. Its quality and feelings

that you get in the process of sex become completely different. You will never be able to repeat any sex that is just technical or that is without contact with your body, soul and emotions. you will experience much more. This is the same as taking a flat picture or seeing a voluminous image right in life. Here your changes will be about the same. But please do not demand huge results right away. For everything we need time. Gradually, little by little, step

by step, more and more immerse yourself in your feelings, you will learn to recognize. what you want and what you don't want and bring to life what pleases you and brings pleasure. Also, the practice is aimed at doing what we will talk about, namely, communication with a partner, conversation with a partner, trustful communication on the topic of sex. more normal, more familiar, some kind of natural phenomenon in your life, which means you can do it easily, without stress, at the time when it will be important to do it, without delaying the discussion of difficult moments, without putting them in a long box, which means you do not form a snowball, which is then difficult to disassemble. Maximum pleasure in sex we get when our thoughts, feelings and actions are connected. Thoughts include beliefs about sex, our values, that is, what is important for us and what we are ready to bring into our lives, our knowledge, our awareness of sexual life, about the body, about feelings, about how sex is arranged, how our body and pleasure are arranged, and

those knowledge that do not slow down our pleasure, but help it. Let me give you an example. If I think that sex is something dirty, something forbidden, something that brings only disappointment and pain, then, of course, these thoughts will stop me from getting sexual experience. If I think that this is something very bad, I will not strive to explore my bodily sensations, to bring something new, in this physical communication with my partner. Thus, sex will be something very tense, boring, it will be boring and simply end. When we talk about the second component, it is a feeling, we mean the emotional fulfillment of the process. Well, for example, every sex can be painted with some of its own emotions. Now we are playing.

We, for example, as children, we relax, we look at our bodies, we are very light and playful. And the next sexual act can be such as immersing us in other emotions. We can be very serious. we can bring some roles, we can play something and it will be a completely different emotional filling. And we can just be very slow, relaxed, so tuned to each other and, for example, helping to relieve tension, a little pity for each other in something after some difficult working day. And agree, it will be three different sexes, although technically we can do the same thing. Thus, this emotional fulfillment can add great interest, curiosity to our sexual life and make it diverse.

And, of course, action. Action is our body. We experience sex with our body. And therefore we will focus on what the body feels, what the ribs of our fingerprints feel, and how you can touch yourself and your partner, and how our body experiences these sensations. Are there any blocks somewhere? Are there any clutches somewhere? Or does sex flow freely and easily through our body? Does it move?

Does it feel like doing it somewhere? That's all about it. We will also talk about it. So, we move on to the practice. The practice will be after each lesson. Now I will tell you a practice called Endless Breathing. Endless Breathing is a wonderful tool. You can master

it and use it as a base, for example, for prayer, for meditation, for setting yourself up for the day or for living some experience, as well as for your fantasies. I will describe how this infinite breathing technically occurs, and you will think about where you can build it. You are in the lotus position or in the gratitude position. Gratitude position is when we sit completely on our knees and lie forward with our body, rubbing our hands forward. We lie on the floor with At this moment we begin to breathe, but not in some special way. We inhale as it goes, and as soon as we feel that the inhale ends, we immediately begin to exhale. As soon as we exhale, we immediately begin to inhale.

It turns out this endless cycle that flows and does not stop. It has such a calming effect, and also a little seductive, and even a little hypnotic, in which you can easily live a new experience, for example, meditation or prayer, that is, building a certain state, a certain feeling of peace. How do we breathe? I'll show you now. We take a breath. Here it ends, and I immediately start to exhale.

It's okay if the inhale is shorter than the exhale, or vice versa. It's okay if one cycle of inhale -exhale is longer or deeper. There is no problem here. The only problem is that we completely connect the inhale-exhale into a smooth line. You can set a soft alarm clock, some soft melody, starting from 2 minutes, 5 minutes, 8 minutes, so that you can not strain and not think about how much time has already passed, how much time I am in this breath, gradually, gradually increasing the duration of this practice. This way it will become more familiar to you. Please try this breathing and then build it into your life. This is the end of the first

lesson and I am waiting for you in the next lesson.