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Free Sexless Marriage Quiz (Gottman)

A brief evidence-based assessment to help you understand what's happening in your bedroom and what might help both of you.

2 min7 questionsBased on Gottman-informed + Dual Control ModelFree & private

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Understanding Your Intimate Disconnection

A brief evidence-based assessment to help you understand what's happening in your bedroom and what might help both of you.

Your severity level — mild, moderate, or significant
What’s driving YOUR dead bedroom specifically
A personalized next step from Dr. Wellls

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This is not a clinical assessment. For medical concerns, consult a healthcare provider.

About This Assessment

Informed by the Gottman Institute's Sound Relationship House framework and the Dual Control Model from the Kinsey Institute

This sexless marriage quiz uses 7 evidence-based questions informed by the Gottman-informed + Dual Control Model to evaluate the severity and impact of dead bedroom on your daily life. Your score is calculated from multiple dimensions including symptom frequency, intensity, and functional impact.

This is a screening tool, not a diagnosis. It draws on validated relationship research but does not replace clinical assessment or couples therapy. If your results concern you, consult a therapist trained in sexual health or couples work.

Understanding Your Score

Your Intimacy Pattern: Early Signals(Score 1-3)

What you're experiencing is in its early stages. For many couples, this is a signal that something in the system needs attention: sleep, stress, a medication change, unspoken resentment, or simply und

Your Intimacy Pattern: Multiple Systems Involved(Score 4-6)

You're dealing with more than one thing at once. That's not a failure. Bancroft and Janssen's research at the Kinsey Institute confirmed it: dead bedrooms are almost never one cause. They're multiple

Your Intimacy Pattern: This Needs Real Attention(Score 7-10)

What you're describing is significant. The level of disconnection tells me this isn't background noise. It's affecting your relationship, your sense of self, and how you move through your days. I wan

Frequently Asked Questions

What does this sexless marriage quiz measure?

This sexless marriage quiz uses 7 evidence-based questions informed by the Gottman-informed + Dual Control Model to assess the severity and impact of dead bedroom on your daily life. It evaluates multiple dimensions including symptom frequency, intensity, and how they affect your wellbeing.

How accurate is this sexless marriage quiz?

This screening tool is informed by the Gottman-informed + Dual Control Model, a clinically validated instrument (Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight. Bancroft & Janssen, Dual Control Model (Kinsey Institute).). While it provides a reliable indication of severity, it is not a diagnostic tool. For clinical diagnosis, consult a qualified healthcare provider.

Is this a medical diagnosis?

No. This is a screening tool, not a diagnosis. It provides an indication of dead bedroom severity that you can discuss with your healthcare provider. For clinical diagnosis, consult a qualified medical professional. You can bring your results to your next doctor visit as a conversation starter.

How long does this sexless marriage quiz take?

This assessment takes approximately 2 minutes to complete. It contains 7 evidence-based questions. Your results are immediate, private, and include personalized recommendations.

What should I do with my results?

Your results include a severity score and personalized recommendations. We suggest: (1) reviewing your score and what it means, (2) reading our in-depth article about dead bedroom at wellls.com/problems/sexless-marriage, (3) discussing your results with a healthcare provider, and (4) exploring our evidence-based lifestyle medicine recommendations for managing dead bedroom.

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